I recently joined an online chat about the way a coach should deal with the known phenomena of seeing one-self in the client. Most of the participants agreed that this should not be reflected in any way during the session. The session is about the client, not about us. But how much should we focus on that after the session?

Some of the more “spritual” participants argued that nothing happens for no reason, and that the client was “sent” to us to teach us some lesson. I find this way of thinking very egocentric. On the other hand, if you do see similarities between yourself and the client shouldn’t you give it a thought?

I have my answer, but I really liked best one specific responses given to that. One lady stated that if ever she find too much similarity between herself and the coaching client, she will remind herself that you really aren’t supposed to be coaching your identical twin!

Don’t take yourself too seriousely. Coaches are people.